Part 1-Lessons learned from caregiver journey


“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.”

— Ecclesiastes 3:1 NIV


My journey as a caregiver came to a close on April 14, 2025, when my mother passed away after a four-year battle with breast cancer. I miss her every day; countless reminders of her surround me, and I am eternally grateful that God entrusted me with the role of caregiver.


Currently, I am in a season of grief, navigating the new reality of my life without her. The loss of my mom has created a significant void in my heart. However, through my faith, I am reassured that God is a healer. Engaging in grief counseling has proven invaluable during this challenging time.


As I reflect on my caregiver experience, I often ponder:


What Did Caregiving Teach Me?

Being a caregiver imparted numerous lessons on me. Here are three key takeaways:


  • Caregiving is a calling, not my identity. In life, we are called to fulfill many roles, but we must be cautious not to define ourselves solely by those roles. Scriptures remind us, “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” (Ephensians 2:10) . As a caregiver, I fulfilled part of the good works that God had prepared for me.

  • Strength arises from surrendering to God and seeking help from others. I learned that I didn’t always have to be strong. There were moments when I felt utterly helpless, and I had to reach out to God and others for support. Scripture tells us “‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” 2 Cor 12:9

  • Connections matter. I was fortunate to connect with various caregiver resources. Learning from fellow caregivers and participating in classes was essential for my growth.

In summary, the lessons I learned during my caregiver journey were that it was a calling to perform good works for God, my strength originated from God and the support of others, and that connections are vital. I hope this reflection benefits anyone just beginning their journey or those currently in the midst of it.

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