My Super Power
When I needed clothes, you cloth me, when I was sick you cared for me.. Matthew 26:36
Have you ever noticed a natural talent within yourself but downplayed it? Perhaps you didn't think it was noteworthy enough to mention because you assumed everyone possessed the same gift. This is called Imposter syndrome which is a psychological experience of self-doubt about one's abilities and accomplishments, despite evidence to the contrary
I recently attended a fantastic event that brought together women from diverse backgrounds. It was a special occasion where each woman had the chance to share her story in response to a thought-provoking question. My question was about your superpower. I chose to reveal something different from what I had in mind.. I chose not to share for two reasons: first, I didn't think it was significant enough, and second, I wanted to manage my emotions. Talking about this gift stirred up strong emotions, and I didn't want to cry.
If I was honest , I would have shared my true superpower, which is caregiving. I am beyond grateful for the chance to care for my mom. Ideally, I wish my mom didn't need a caregiver. My hope is for her is to be healthier and less reliant on daily caregiving. Yet, I have come to accept this new normal with gratitude. I see it as a chance to enhance my mother's quality of life during this difficult time. I am giving her the best of what God has placed within me.
It warms my heart to see my mother smile when I fulfill her wishes. Her gratitude is touching, and serving her brings me joy and love.
Throughout my personal journey, I discovered that caregiving demands a selfless drive, calling for daily dedication and sacrifices.
It was a job I desired, but I didn't seize the chance to apply. I waited until the end of the day to submit my application, but unfortunately, I missed the cutoff number of applicants. Initially, I was devastated by the outcome, but reflecting on the experience later, I understood that I lacked the mental fortitude at that time. My commitment to caregiving took precedence over my career ambitions. The flexibility of my current job allowed me to balance my caregiving duties more effectively. I didn’t want another responsibility to worry about.
During this season, I found that when one door closed, new opportunities arose. These opportunities led to enriching experiences, such as participating in the "She Got the Keys" 8-week journey for gaining confidence and discovering my purpose and gifts through faith, led by a remarkable woman. I also joined "Stra-ta-tease," a group of like-minded women entrepreneurs learning to do business with God's guidance, led by a passionate woman fostering growth in others. Additionally, I engaged in a 40-day prayer circle with weekly discussions on prayer aspects and lastly I attended the "Beautiful Encounter" experience, aiming to redefine beauty beyond societal norms, led by a woman driven by a divine desire for change. Through these experiences, I connected with inspiring women, propelling me towards a new venture in supporting caregivers and those impacted by illness through my new business, Grateful Caregiver.
I believe God has placed this calling on my life to transition my heart to be more selfless and less selfish.
To those reading this, I'm not suggesting that you neglect your self-care while fulfilling your caregiving responsibilities. It is crucial to prioritize self-care. Neglecting your well-being not only affects those you care for but also jeopardizes your own health. Taking time for self-care is essential to benefit both yourself and the ones you are looking after.
If you've seen any Superman cartoons or movies, you'll know about Clark Kent transforming into Superman when duty calls. By day, he's Clark Kent, the reporter, leading a regular life. Yet, when there's a chance to assist someone, he changes into Superman in a phone booth. He fulfills his heroic role, then resumes his Clark Kent persona. I draw a comparison between the Superman role and your caregiving experience, but from a different angle.
When faced with challenges, you can either tackle them independently or seek assistance from others. I discovered the power of humility in relying on others, acknowledging that I need support and that I'm not a superhero.
A few takeaways I have learned
1) Being a caregiver is not appropriate for someone who is selfish.
2) Caregivers must dedicate themselves daily to prioritizing the needs of others, all while managing their own internal and external challenges, aspirations, and personal difficulties.
3) Being a caregiver who honors God is a significant responsibility that demands ongoing sacrifices, dedication, and patience.
4) God has entrusted the God-honoring caregiver with a significant task of serving with love.
5) Sowing seeds of faith and care in the lives of others will yield a bountiful harvest in your own life. Even if your actions go unnoticed or unappreciated by others, remember that God sees everything. Do not lose heart because of the lack of recognition. Trust that God acknowledges your efforts, and in His eyes, you are truly blessed.
6)The goal is to offer caring support to those who have been placed in your life by God.
7) Consistent communication with God through prayer, praise, and His word serves as valuable guidance in distinguishing between distractions and maintaining a focus that honors God. Deviating from focus while providing care can lead to consequences, whereas remaining focused amidst distractions yields fruitful outcomes.
(Excerpts from Caregiver devotional -Dr Kenetta Bryant)
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